Drama Tween/Teen Dilemma:
Girl has a secret crush on Boy (who always compliments her)for the longest time. Everyday, Boy finds opportunity to speak with the Girl hinting that he wants to ask her out. One day, Girl found guy flirting with girl in Red- -Girl thinks, that's okay but by noon Girl saw Boy flirting with girl in Pink ...and one hour later in class, flirting with girl in Yellow. By 3 pm at the bus stop - - Girl saw Boy hand in hand with girl in Green (apparently the real girlfriend). Is his attention towards our drama tween an act?
I had this same situation when I was 15 and If I am 15 now, I will ask myself if I want to be with a guy who has the tendency to get distracted with so many girls while I am not with him.
I used to hang out with 3 diva girls in our village. We never gave our moms headaches as our focus of attention evolves around fictional character from movies (Karate Kid, Hardy Boys,Top Gun etc). However, things changed one summer time, when ugly boys that our brothers hang out with suddenly morphed and became like hunks overnight...specially one boy whom we shall call "Mr. TROUBLE".
So what do you think happens? Diva 1 seeks guys attention, Diva 2 tried desperately hard to be cute, Diva 3 played the mysterious girl and I have no tricks left to get his attention as my Diva buddies are more proactive than I am (No biggie as I love reading books than going out at that time). So what do you expect - - we all try to be cute!
The problem is: Mr Trouble played us all so well! Asked Diva 2 to a dance party on Friday, asked Diva 1 for soda at the corner store, talked with Diva 3 for hours on the phone ....FUN? Until the big diva convention on a weekend and we realized that Mr Trouble is the main event in all our lives. So what should I do as I also have a big crush on Mr. Trouble? NOTHING! I want to do something- -but what are my options? Uhhmm..Lose my friends, pursue his attention knowing that he will hurt me, fight for his time until he lose interest and find another girl or finish my book and get advance points for summer reading!
We tend to like people who reciprocate our feelings and we tend to hang out with friends who will protect our best interest. In this case - -de-crushing Mr Trouble was simple - i just avoided him and focused on learning a new skill that summer (cooking class) - Remember the OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF LOVE technique?
Anyway, having a crush does wonders for our ego: Since we make an effort to look good physically and mentally for another person - -we tend to release positive energy that attracts other people to respond positively towards us! So enjoy - - have 50 crushes! Just learn how to de-crush when you're done okay?

